01 / USE IT WELL
Serious does not require one template
Separate homes, independent finances or slower family integration can belong inside a committed relationship when both people freely want them.
02 / USE IT WELL
Preferences affect other people
A structure is only compatible when everybody understands it. Avoid presenting a major limit as temporary when you know it is not.
03 / USE IT WELL
Revisit the conversation
Work, health, retirement and caring responsibilities change. Agreements should remain discussable rather than becoming assumptions.